There are meds too but I would go the cog. And I absolutely convince myself that nothing terrible can happen to him while our love energy is protecting him. www.kidpower.org. we don't teach fear, we teach confidence and strength. But you can't just not think them or force them to go away. Before your visit, write down questions you want answered. Your child may But honestly sometimes it's hard to do that and the worries will consume me..feel free to email..if we can somehow support each other I'd be willing to. Here are things you can do to help your child: Tips to help you get the most from a visit to your child’s healthcare provider: Cedars-Sinai has a range of comprehensive treatment options. Call them ''invasive thoughts'', because that's what they are - They are invading your peace. Know why a new medicine or treatment is prescribed and how it will help your child. child if they have concerns about how treatment is going. Enjoy the life you have with your parents by focusing on the positive and the present. risk for a phobia include shyness, a traumatic event in early childhood, or mental Learn more about the triggers, whether itâs a classified phobia, symptoms, causes, risk factors, diagnosis, treatment, and outlook for trypophobia. you are not crazy know how you feel. Go see your doctor and an acupuncturist! To give a very simple explanation you have a thought, you give that thought a lot of importance (obsession), you feel anxious and you do something to relieve the anxiety (compulsion). That sounds a lot like me. Most people ⦠Three-minutes later, they have moved on... Take a deep breath, get a babysitter and hopefully that will help you gain some perspective. Fear of Parent Dying. It's just your brain and body misfiring -- just because your brain and body tell you something, doesn't mean it's true! What struck me is that you feel this is a problem, that you are giving these thoughts a lot of importance by calling them premonitions and that you immediately replace the thoughts with positive ones. Certain physical health conditions (such as thyroid problems Numbness. I also think it has a lot to do with the media and all the negativity and fear raising we are exposed to constantly, without hearing much of the good that occurs daily. -anon. -trapped at home. It's sort of part of being human--we know love and we also know loss. It has had such a detramental effect on her. I suffer from generalized anxiety disorder so I worry about everything, but my top worry is that something will happen to my son, too. but the picture of the world in my head is not in her head and its not fair to teach your child to be terrified - a reasonable amount of fear is healthy and ok - but being petrified is not fair. Phobias can be treated. I hope that you are able to find some relief and realize that you are not alone. Symptoms include increased heart rate, I don't think this is abnormal, as long as these thoughts don't overtake your entire day every day. Fear of dying. anon. Perhaps deaths of people you have loved in the past or even abandonment issues? And oh how you want to protect them...and what if you didn't act on your ''premonition'' and something terrible happened? Even when my husband leaves the house for a short errand, I think ''What if he gets into an accident and this is the last time I see him?''. Help Chills or hot flashes. These are not premonitions. Apparently this is a common side effect and I was very upset that my doctor never made the connection despite my complaints about anxiety. anon, Hello, I am a local therapist and to me, it sounds like you have an anxiety issue. What I have done is that every time I catch myself thinking a ''doomsday'' type thought like you describe, I stop myself and don't allow my mind to go there. you leave your child unattended, there is drugs and alcohol involved, there is some level of neglect involved. But sure, I worry, and I think about how I can't keep my family safe all the time. For me, I realized it was the fear, of ''thinking'' something bad was going to happen, then it went into ''anxiety,'' that it could happen, then it would spiral back into fear, so my husband calls me the ''catastrophic thinker''. If you can keep it under control, you can use it. You are not alone. These things are equally true- the world is a scary, horrible place that wants to devour your child and the world is a magical place, full of joy, that wants to embrace your child. Also, I think all of us parents have rational and irrational worries about our children and probably will even as our children reach adulthood! But you deserve to worry less if you can. But these are the most common: Increased heart rate Sweating Trembling or shaking Shortness of breath Feeling of choking Chest pain or discomfort Upset stomach Feeling dizzy or faint Fear of losing control or going crazy Fear of dying Numbness Chills or hot flashes I'm in therapy, too, to deal with the underlying causes of these thoughts. I think part of is that, as parents, we DO need to be more vigilant. I wish I had examined it fully when she was born. First any physical problems are I can't say enough good things about Dr. Tompkins, he is such a kind and compassionate man and an expert in the field of anxiety disorders. ), so lavish in these healthy days! I am curious if anyone else is debilitated with such fears, and if so, how are you managing to sustain your sanity and your relationship? Also, I work part-time at a day-care. In other words I do my own cognitive therapy but it works and it helps. Wishing you all the best! Protect your child by all means when there is a clear danger (jumping off the table, running with scissors), but let these other fears go if you can. So study cancer for what it is and isn't - this goes well beyond western medicine. Get to it and live gratefully, no matter your cards dealt. I dwell on this too much. www.emofree.com anon, I think what feels like a preminition can really be an expression of anxiety--especially in the situation you described of feeling this way when your husband takes your child in the car, etc. I would suggest a few things: check out some books on anxiety. If your child really hurts, you may as well run to the doctor. Kids fall. I discovered the connection myself through my own research, immediately stopped taking the pill and the thoughts went away in a few days. I know it's not entirely rational, but I can't shake the fear. I\x92m not being completely irrational, we live in a toxic world full of cancer- causing poisons in our food and emissions in our air. But I still think about how much of my life is about him: I have a good job, but not a life-defining one, not one in which others rely on me; I am not partnered; and though my family would miss me, they don't really need me. It is a type of I do the exact same things you mentioned. It's great that you're writing for help. Dr. Michael Tompkins 510-652-4455 Anon, I have often had these thougths too....NOTHING has ever happened to my children. Many of us moms suffer from anxiety, it is very common, but I find that not a lot of people talk about it unless I bring up the fact that I have it first. health issues in family members. I am awaiting the time when I am no longer breastfeeding to go back on the Lexapro. Is it possible you may have some deep-seated issues in your own life that contribute to these unusual feelings? A Fellow Worrier, This sounds like something you should be discussing with a counselor especially since it's been going on for over two years. Your child is beautiful and special...but, people trust their children to others every day. There are lots of mom's groups, many of them formed to help make connections and inoculate you against isolation and feeling trapped. So I am determined to beat this current feeling of fear and dread and stay focused on the present! As far as having those fears about your child, it's frightening to think about losing your child. This seems troubling to live with every day! people can have certain extremes of this. I spent most of my twenties worried about my parents dying (they are 40 years older than me). Feel free to contact me if you like. I believe that we are hard wired to protect our kids and that having little 'premonitions' of terrible things that could happen is mother natures way of keeping us cautious and watchful over our children. Choking or being smotheredâ Pnigophobia or Pnigerophobia. If you can't get these negative feelings out of your head, or they're just too bothersome, TELL your doctor! Sometimes when I have decided to stay home while my husband and child go on an errand, I have to run out to the car and go with them b/c I am overcome with the thoughts of ''what if something happens''. I even have horrific visions sometimes besides just the feelings. You can't let fear rule your life and take away your joy. for each day she watched him for probably the first month. That being said, I think it's very common to feel that your life couldn't possibly go on without your beloved child and I don't think it's a bad thing to love your kid that much. meg. totally anonymous, I have that same problem and have for many years. We'll tell you more about this phobia, including what can trigger it and what kinds of symptoms you might experience if ⦠One piece of advice I can give is to try to only focus on what you can control. Also, have you considered posting for recommendations for a babysitter, and then trying them out while you're home doing chores? And go ahead and talk with a therapist--it might be helpful. It can help to limit cancer-causing toxins in your home to the extent that you can-green/homemade cleaning products, organic food where you can, more natural personal care products, limiting plastics, etc. Try to remind yourself it can take years to build the toxins up in your body and that mostly older people get cancer. So my solution is to be fully present, to live mindfully, i.e. Yes, sometimes I have to get out of my comfortable bed late at night to check on the kids because of those feelings or call them when they are with their Dad to make sure all is well. Just try not to think about those bad thoughts. © 2020 Cedars-Sinai. It’s a fear that lasts for at least 6 months. Today, I watched three children for two different friends all day...we did have a cut on the knee at one point and I did feed them all some really disgusting Whole Foods Organic Mac & Cheese (I hate the boxed stuff...but they LOVE it...but only when the five are together as a group...weird...but,it works), but they all finished the day well. Good luck! At four or five, a phobic reaction is hard to miss: Crying, screaming and running away in terror are typical responses.Safety needs to be a concern at this age, as Nadia Laurin of Toronto discovered first-hand. are. We would like to have an occasional evening out to ourselves, but we are terrified of the idea of leaving him with a stranger (there is no one in our circle of family and friends who could babysit for us). It a necessity vs. a luxury. Basically, you have to find a way to talk yourself down when you have these thoughts and different things work for different people. Think about how guilt feels, and then think about how these ''premonitions'' feel. And my 4.5 year old son is also in therapy, because he has picked up on the panic and the ritualizing and now he has anxiety because ''something is wrong with mom''. (behavioral inhibitions) as a child, Having negative or traumatic life events early in childhood. For example, check together for under-bed monsters. Practice the good visions (whatever they are) during a time you are not having invasive thinking. A child may develop a phobia if he or she has a fearful first There might be a lesson here if you look closer. I have seriously scary premonitions that play out in my head all the time regarding my one year old, and it's been that way since before his birth...from the every day occurance (like tripping and falling with him in my arms and he gets a serious brain trauma injury), to completely random (like a fire that gets started while cooking that consumes him). Fear of losing control or going crazy. He was 2 days old. Now whenever I start to worry, I picture the energy of love of my children and me coming out of our bodies like ropes or force fields and joining together and going out to him to protect him. That word alone is flavoring the way you are coping with them. You deserve to feel good and enjoy this time in your life. Anonymous, I too went through a period a few years ago where lots of people I knew were getting cancer and going through treatment. Kids bonk. For now, I try to stop my imagination from running wild all the time. I wish you all the best! Try to think about the positive for at least double the time that you've worried about the bad. But it does get me over my anxiety. Learn about how important green food is in reversing sick cells to healthy cells. A conscious, meditative effort to think about other, more realistic futures (if you need to imagine hardship, imagine comforting him after his first heartbreak or flunking his driving test) and 2. The word Pediaphobia is derived from paidia meaning children and phobos meaning aversion or fear. Also, try not to ''discuss'' those thoughts to the point where the thought exists outside of you head. I sympathize. anon, FEAR NO MORE...EMPOWER YOURSELF AND YOUR CHILD. When untreated, phobias can become a lifelong issue. i've been a parent for 24 years - done with the 24 year old and started anew with the 3 year old. And it can also improve I don't think I'd go so far as saying I was imprisoned by fear, but when I had to think about babysitters/nannies for my first child 6 years ago, I was terrified about whom to trust. I've already started utilizing some of the suggestions in the book, and feeling more physically in control and intuitively in tune has helped me to feel more secure and relaxed about my child's safety. And you'll grow more confident in your child's ability to move through the world as he gets older (hopefully). Know that anything could happen at anytime, each day is a gift. and I still suffer from horrendous nightmares about losing my children from time to time. While most phobias develop in childhood, they can also develop in later life. What I have learned about threats, death and terminal illness: Life is about living! i am a KIDPOWER instructor - we teach self defense and safety skills for kids : www.kidpower.org. Best wishes! I would do the same now. And then you worry more. Do work, socialize, take a class, whatever keeps you occupied and not worrying. A child who has at least 4 of the symptoms may be having a panic attack. Numbness. I know you are not looking for a diagnosis but I was having similar thoughts and others that were causing me GREAT anxiety and distress. I have had periods of mild anxiety in my life and that is when those thoughts creep in. Finding your own resilience might help more than you think. The words Pediaphobia and Pediophobia are often mistaken for each other. As years go by, there's less and less control over this being. Be willing to listen to and advocate for your What I have done to cope with this is the very minute that anxiety producing thought comes into my mind I banish it, refuse to elaborate on it mentally and instead I envision a golden bubble around the person I am worried about, protecting them from all harm. The other thing is, there is a part of me that thinks ''If I don't imagine this disastrous possible future scenario, then how will I ever prevent it?'' Ok. My heart so goes out to you. on it and read about it...I highly doubt that your ''premonitions'' are really that...it's more of an anxiety and it is common...If by chance you do have kaiser I highly recommend their clas sthat is done in Oakland it was very informative and very very helpfula nd I could understand why I felt this way and learned techniques that I could use to fight them. a phobia. Learn what turns into sugar in your body. Those are not premonitions. I went to a therapist who told me to try biofeedback. And to really love someone is to acknowledge on some level that you are made terribly vulnerable by that love. Lastly, if it's more than you can handle, see a psychologist and get counseling and perhaps medication if that seems right for you. Two I recommend are: ''The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook'' http://tinyurl.com/6h2c74 and ''Worry'' http://tinyurl.com/5ray23 Meditation is also good for anxiety. ... Tell others about your childâs phobia. I am not sure if other mothers experience this type of thing, but I do on occasion and do my best not to let them consume me and shelter my son based on what ''might'' happen. Before her it was my dogs, friends, family or self that I would imagine about. --been there, I have them too, it's normal. Anon, I also get those same feelings you are talking about. Death is an inevitable part of life everyone must learn to accept. The first is your fear. I think this is normal, to a degree. Do what you can to feed your child organic foods and stay healthy. Even more than the worry, it is the thought of what if I don't check on him and then something really does happen, then it will be all my fault that I didn't check on him when I felt I should have. I have certainly felt that way. Try it, it really works! sweating, shaking, a feeling of choking, and upset stomach. okay that was hokey - fear never leaves a parent. never told me! We all worry to various degrees. If you tried that and found it doesn't work for you than I would consult someone- just for the peace of mind. In many cases, results are instantaneous. But we can't foresee every disaster. every parent is a worrier, Dear friend, I say this directly and with care. Your post describes everything I think. Worry, especially when it is unwarranted and overwhelming, is often a sign that something inside of us is unresolved. We check on our baby a lot when she's sleeping (we co-sleep, but she naps and goes to bed earlier than we do). I do not have advice, but I feel your fear and anxiety. genetic and environmental. etc.) Read or sing to your child. I know it will mean that I will be able to relax more. Let your spouse take your child to go get dinner, you will see nothing terrible happens, and can be reassured that these fears are not premonitions, just a normal part of being a human. Fear of dying. i almost did this to my eldest daughter - making her afraid of what i was afraid of. You might also look at past points in your life for times when you have had losses and how you worked through them. Avoid TV news and newspapers if they stress you out too much. Take care of yourself. Our ''worried over'' daughters fell on their heads a time or two, broke an occasional bone, and still grew up to be healthy, happy campers. If not, it's probably because of your outstanding love for your son. Anxiety is an activation of the nervous system, and so it's best to find ways to calm your system. Know what to expect if your child does not take the medicine or have the test or procedure. I know you said you don't want a diagnosis, but I think it's really common for anxiety to manifest that way. I can understand the fear, this is one heck of a toxic world! Treatment may include therapy and object or situation. http://seer.cancer.gov/statistics/ anon. Treatment may occur via counselling.. If you can wait until you baby is a little older like 1.5 and sleeping more at night it might be easier to have a sitter then because basically your child will just be sleeping. Common phobias are a fear of animals, insects, blood, heights, or flying. And if his plane had crashed I would have sworn that his spirit had come to her. Let your child learn that you always come back. But somehow you should address that issue as well. Then try the following: 1. Any advice is very welcome. I do have good friends that I love, but they don't have answers, nor the power to keep me going if anything should happen. But life must go on. Best wishes! You are undoubtedly passing some of that on to the kids. Those negative thoughts are useless and have no value and you can train yourself to get rid of them. visualize safety, Just wanted to say you are not alone! A final word, you deserve to take care of YOU too! You raise 2 important issues. anxiety disorder and phobia may be helpful. Air and water quality have greatly improved over the last 30 or more years. Treatment will depend on your child’s symptoms, age, and general health. Also, babies need their caregiver to be reasonably present to facilitate responsive two-way communication. A girlfriend tipped me off about the anxiety/BC connection and I just stopped taking the pills in mid cycle and in 48 hours the anxiety was gone. Babies donât exhibit phobias. I just tell myself to stop worrying because my children are fine and will myself to think about something else. provider about other providers who will be part of your child’s care. If there is a problem, I know I can act on it in a timely manner. That's a hard way to live. All I know is that what you wrote was familiar to me and I have OCD. The way I get past it is by telling my children how much I love them, and by kissing them every chance they let me, by singing to them to wake them up every morning, by caressing their foreheads before they fall asleep, by telling them that they're grounded when they become lazy with their school work because I love them and want the best for them. These symptoms may seem like other health problems. So do the best you can and develop some coping skills- meditate, go to therapy, work it out at the gym, go to church- whatever helps you. I immediately thought that his plane had gone down and his spirit had come to say good bye. I think all of us imagine the worst sometimes. Thinking Realistically about Death Recognize that death-related fears are normal. It was another 20 years before he made the connection. Make a list of all your concerns. It has been so bad with me, however, that I have been prescribed Xanax to alleviate the anxiety. Love, a friend Living To Be Happy. therapy route first. Know why a test or procedure is recommended and what the results could mean. Sounds harsh, right? So I think it's perfectly NORMAL that we end up developing these fears! I\x92m not asking for a medical diagnosis, but wonder if this is common and what could I do? She said it was a form of anxiety. Iâm not sure how or why, but it crept up suddenly and instead of living, I keep picturing âthe end.â My decisions are based on anxieties and fears and I know Iâm not enjoying my precious gift from the Lord as he intended. Its something you're doing in the face of immense vulnerability at suddenly having your heart torn out of your body and put into this little being. Below are five strategies you could use to help your child overcome their fears and phobias. medicines. This sounds like a good time to connect with other parents in your neighborhood. All children have fears at some point in their life. That may be the core issue here: as responsible parents we feel we must prevent all possible bad things from happening to our children. A phobia is an excessive fear of an object or situation. However, you can develop phobias of virtually anything. As long as these flashes are not keeping you from having a normal life, allowing your child normal activities, etc., I would continue just pressing myself to think positively. symptoms. Exercise and good self-care can help. You are not alone! You can deal with this! Trichophobia is a fear of hair. That only makes them seem more real. object or situation. Don't be to hard on yourself, you sound like a great mom. I am SO glad you posted this! My fiance and I just did ''dates'' at home after she went to sleep.Grab a bottle of wine and a some fruit and cheese and have a picnic on the living room floor ( baby monitor close by!). Scared Dad. I never had fear of losing my children, until I lost one. I have been off the meds since last summer when we started trying to get pregnant and I have more and more elaborate fantasies all the time about harm to my daughter. It was hard and it was painful, but I had to deal with it as I had other children to take care of. You may not end your fears and worries, but you might find more strategies to stop them before they start, or to deal with them more effectively. i lay awake fearing the worse and i mean the worse - i create scenarios in my head, i read way too much into life tragedies - like the whole madelaine mccan thing - jeeze louise - i'm petrified. What should I do when my mind goes there (imagining the worst)? But finding and treating a phobia early can ease I doubt I'll ever hurt them deeply with words of anger. Anon, I wonder if there is anyone on this list who HASN'T had those ''premonitions.'' At the visit, write down the name of a new diagnosis, and any new medicines, treatments, or tests. And at these times I can also be very superstitious. For your child this may be a serious problem that they might not be able to handle by themselves. It is worse now that I have a 5 month old to worry about. This turned upside down his ability to assume that the world was a predictable place that wouldn't rip away the ones he loved. The good news is that there is a wide variety of help you can get, from individual therapy to group therapy and support groups, cognative behavioral therapy, pyschotherapy and if you need it, medication. Please don't think of the sweet early baby months as a prison sentence but a very special sweet time that will go by very quickly. Worse yet (and I hesitate to even write this anonymously, but here goes) are fantasies of harming your child that flash into your brain. I've seen a lot of air emission & water quality requirements go into place. All Rights Reserved. It seems like every time I read a story pertaining to children, it is about how a child is being harmed in some way (otherwise it wouldn't be news, would it?). Then you will know what it is and that it is not cancer. It sounds as if you handle it, and if you aren't passing on your fears, they harm no one but you. or even ''what will happen if I tell her that she can't have ice cream for dessert?''). every once in a while. Second, you need to create a series of thoughts in your mind that override the invasive thoughts. If environmental issues are of concern I would try to educate yourself by getting data from EPA, BAAQMD, and RWQCB. Good luck! I agree that this kind of thinking is not rational and needs to be addressed. Did you know that canola oil is only one molecule different from plastic? however I learned that this is a sympton or a kind of anxiety issue. My recommendation to you would be to get help for this fear instead of seeing the fear as 'real'. I made the decision to take time off and stay home shortly after he was born, but am starting to realize that I am very unhappy as a stay at home mom. For instance, a 6-year-old's phobia about dogs might make him so panicky that he refuses to go outdoors at all because there could be a dog there. Fear is when there is an immediate threat to you or your loved ones' well being. Choose a doctor and schedule an appointment. A phobia is an excessive fear of an object or situation. Joanne, How do I deal with my fear that, everytime my 10 year old complains of an ache or a pain, she has cancer? Be supportive and nonjudgmental. I have an 8 month old baby. 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